@ArcticFox12 said:

@Knixon said:

I wondered about that too. Maybe they were attempted but failed because there was too much consummation in the meantime?

Yup. One of my college buddies tried to get a impulse wedding annulled and as it turns out it didn't qualify for annulment. Nevada required a residency period and he sure as hell never lived there.

They ended up having to move there for a certain amount of time, then go through with the annulment process once the criteria was met.

To this day I still speak to him and the girl , they're Facebook friends and are still on fairly amenable terms .

Someone lied to them and cost them a whole lot of money because that isn't quite true. :)

"In order to file for an annulment in Nevada, either you or your spouse must have lived in Nevada for at least six weeks prior to filing or you must have gotten married in Nevada."

The residency requirement for an annulment in Nevada is only for those who got married in an state other than Nevada. :)

Well, weddings are stupid anyway. No one should ever waste so much money on just a one day event, that is incredibly stupid. Use that money for a honeymoon or a vacation. Use it for yourselves. :)

Sounds like an exact quote from me about three years ago .

@tlm550 said:

@ArcticFox12 said:

@Knixon said:

I wondered about that too. Maybe they were attempted but failed because there was too much consummation in the meantime?

Yup. One of my college buddies tried to get a impulse wedding annulled and as it turns out it didn't qualify for annulment. Nevada required a residency period and he sure as hell never lived there.

They ended up having to move there for a certain amount of time, then go through with the annulment process once the criteria was met.

To this day I still speak to him and the girl , they're Facebook friends and are still on fairly amenable terms .

Someone lied to them and cost them a whole lot of money because that isn't quite true. :)

"In order to file for an annulment in Nevada, either you or your spouse must have lived in Nevada for at least six weeks prior to filing or you must have gotten married in Nevada."

The residency requirement for an annulment in Nevada is only for those who got married in an state other than Nevada. :)

Laws get "tweaked" all the time--maybe whatever whoever said was true at the time.

@tlm550 said:

Well, weddings are stupid anyway. No one should ever waste so much money on just a one day event, that is incredibly stupid. Use that money for a honeymoon or a vacation. Use it for yourselves. :)

Weddings are as much for if not sometimes more for the family and friends as it is for the bride and groom. Plus depending on what your ethnic background is almost a requirement.

Never been to a themed wedding and I'm not all that crazy about the idea. I do like weddings that are a bit unconventional, like ones that don't do the dreadful garter and bouquet toss and avoid cliches like the Chicken Dance, etc. I'm also really annoyed by people who have "destination" weddings.

Also, if you are going to have a lot of out-of-town guests, do them a huge favor and have the ceremony and reception at the same venue. The best out of state wedding I ever attended was a one stop destination - rehearsal dinner, wedding ceremony, and reception were all held at the hotel where we stayed - THANK YOU!

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Also, if you are going to have a lot of out-of-town guests, do them a huge favor and have the ceremony and reception at the same venue. The best out of state wedding I ever attended was a one stop destination - rehearsal dinner, wedding ceremony, and reception were all held at the hotel where we stayed - THANK YOU!

My cousin was going to get married next year in Italy, we had to talk her out of that because 3/4 of the family would have had to take time off of work to go. She compromised to keep in the U.S. Destination weddings are way too inconvenient.

Btw there's a great comic bit on weddings by Greg Fitzsimmons.

Greg: "Anyone in the audience getting married? Anyone"?

Audience member:" I am."

Greg: "When?"

Audience member : "Wednesday."

Greg:" Wednesday? You're lying to me right now , that's a lie."

Audience:(laughing) "No It's really Wednesday."

Greg:" People don't get married on Wednesdays. You wash your car on Wednesday."

Have you ever attended one of these ? No.

Do you like the idea ? Not particularly, but I'm kind of a traditional guy.

That said, I've been to some interesting weddings, including an Orthodox Jewish Wedding, an Orthodox Greek Wedding, an Orthodox Catholic Wedding, and my favorite, the wedding where a car accident cut power to the reception in July. No power for DJ, no power for the hall, and HOT AS HELL. After eating what could be served (a lot had been completed and was served in the pans where they had portable fire to heat the food), we moved everything outside. Most everyone left right after eating because it was a 100 degree day. I told my wife "We're staying until the end - this isn't cool that everyone is bailing". The DJ had gotten portable power, and we set up in the parking lot and the remaining guests had a blast. That is, until a severe thunderstorm finally put everything to an abrupt end. I still remember running and helping move speakers and other things back into the hall as these black clouds appeared. The wedding itself had been initially delayed by an hour because the Best Man had left the rings at home, and FORGOT HIS KEYS!. They had to break into the house, retrieve the rings, and get back. Talk about a jinxed wedding. As a footnote - that marriage didn't last.

@Gothish520 said:

Never been to a themed wedding and I'm not all that crazy about the idea. I do like weddings that are a bit unconventional, like ones that don't do the dreadful garter and bouquet toss and avoid cliches like the Chicken Dance, etc. I'm also really annoyed by people who have "destination" weddings.

Also, if you are going to have a lot of out-of-town guests, do them a huge favor and have the ceremony and reception at the same venue. The best out of state wedding I ever attended was a one stop destination - rehearsal dinner, wedding ceremony, and reception were all held at the hotel where we stayed - THANK YOU!

Don't like the whole hoopla-wedding thing; but had to, since first cousins are like sibs.

Anyway, my cousin did the destination thing and I had a great time. Because it was away, it felt like family reunion/class reunion/vacation all rolled into one. And with everything in the same location, wasn't burdened with that atrocious head'em up, move'em out nonsense.

One thing about weddings - if you are planning one - and don't want distractions - be cognizant of the date you select. So many times I've seen brides (and grooms) get pissed because people in attendance were ducking out of the reception to check a major sports event at the bar or outside, or in today's world, on cell phones.

Look - I get it. It's your big day. But that doesn't mean the culture stops just for you. I know people that have run into bad luck - like having their local Michigan wedding on the day of Stanley Cup Game 7 between the Red Wings and Penguins. That's bad luck. But you can't expect people who have spent 7 months following the season and watching every game to just not care. Especially for fans that are LIFELONG fans.

But just take a look at a schedule and see if conflicts COULD arise. I went to a Florida wedding where the bride was from Michigan, and the groom was from Florida. Neither were sports fans. They scheduled their wedding so it conflicted with the MICHIGAN/OHIO STATE game (the only time I've missed a half of that game in my life), and the reception at night during the FLORIDA vs FLORIDA STATE game. Now that was just asking for it. The bride was all pissed when guys kept crowding around a TV someone brought.
The worst was a Jewish wedding that was scheduled DURING THE SUPER BOWL. You have to be a special kind of dense to do this and then expect no issues. I mean, why not just schedule it on Christmas Morning or at 1pm on Thanksgiving?? Yes, it's rude to be paying attention to sports during a wedding or a reception. But likewise, if you knowingly scheduled it that way, you reap what you sow. I think it's equally rude to expect your guests to just toss aside cultural activities that are very important to them.

Us? We had a September wedding. We SPECIFICALLY selected a date when U of M was on the bye, and where the only big local game was MSU vs Notre Dame, but that was a 1pm game, and the wedding was at 6PM. With a little planning, we avoided the dreaded "Sports Interruptions".

Thoughts? This usually generates an interesting discussion.

@censorshipsucks06 said:

One thing about weddings - if you are planning one - and don't want distractions - be cognizant of the date you select. So many times I've seen brides (and grooms) get pissed because people in attendance were ducking out of the reception to check a major sports event at the bar or outside, or in today's world, on cell phones.

Look - I get it. It's your big day. But that doesn't mean the culture stops just for you. I know people that have run into bad luck - like having their local Michigan wedding on the day of Stanley Cup Game 7 between the Red Wings and Penguins. That's bad luck. But you can't expect people who have spent 7 months following the season and watching every game to just not care. Especially for fans that are LIFELONG fans.

But just take a look at a schedule and see if conflicts COULD arise. I went to a Florida wedding where the bride was from Michigan, and the groom was from Florida. Neither were sports fans. They scheduled their wedding so it conflicted with the MICHIGAN/OHIO STATE game (the only time I've missed a half of that game in my life), and the reception at night during the FLORIDA vs FLORIDA STATE game. Now that was just asking for it. The bride was all pissed when guys kept crowding around a TV someone brought.
The worst was a Jewish wedding that was scheduled DURING THE SUPER BOWL. You have to be a special kind of dense to do this and then expect no issues. I mean, why not just schedule it on Christmas Morning or at 1pm on Thanksgiving?? Yes, it's rude to be paying attention to sports during a wedding or a reception. But likewise, if you knowingly scheduled it that way, you reap what you sow. I think it's equally rude to expect your guests to just toss aside cultural activities that are very important to them.

Us? We had a September wedding. We SPECIFICALLY selected a date when U of M was on the bye, and where the only big local game was MSU vs Notre Dame, but that was a 1pm game, and the wedding was at 6PM. With a little planning, we avoided the dreaded "Sports Interruptions".

Thoughts? This usually generates an interesting discussion.

My father and brother are huge sports fans (mostly baseball and football) and one of my sisters is a big Nascar fan. So that definitely lets out the World Series, the Super Bowl, and the Daytona 500, lol. Other big days, like playoff games, would depend on whether their team was a contender or not. My brother is also a Notre Dame football and Duke basketball fan. So basically, I get what you're saying, and honestly, I spent most of my time out on the dancefloor at my wedding and probably would not have noticed if people were watching the tv at the bar.

That being said, even the day of the week makes a difference. We had our wedding on a Sunday, and a few people did leave early because they had to work the next day. Mostly my husband's co-workers, so not a great loss, lol. But it is something to keep in mind. Also, Friday weddings might be tough for those who have to work and then try to make it on time. When I was a bride I definitely had the attitude that these people had plenty of notice and should have planned accordingly (Take Monday off...It's the party of the year, dammit!) But like I said, it wasn't anyone top-tier, to put it indelicately - and truth be told, if we had to do it all over again, we could probably cut the guest list by a third - sometimes you get swept up in the moment and invite people who don't really need to be invited.

@Gothish520 said:

sometimes you get swept up in the moment and invite people who don't really need to be invited.

Amen! I look back now and ask myself what some of those people were doing there.

@znexyish said:

@tlm550 said:

Well, weddings are stupid anyway. No one should ever waste so much money on just a one day event, that is incredibly stupid. Use that money for a honeymoon or a vacation. Use it for yourselves. :)

Weddings are as much for if not sometimes more for the family and friends as it is for the bride and groom. Plus depending on what your ethnic background is almost a requirement.

It isn't the wedding that is the problem, it is outrageous, extravagant weddings that cost many 10s of thousands of dollars or even over a hundred thousand. If you spend more on a wedding than it costs to send someone through college, or if you spend more than what a new car costs, then you're spending way too much. Anyone can have a very nice wedding without doing that. If you take out a mortgage on your home, you've spent too much. :)

FYI - The best way of maintaining control of the wedding is to control the MONEY. I had been to a few weddings where one family had paid for the majority of the wedding (traditionally the bride's family). In this case, I was the Best Man. This was about 30 years ago. This was a typical wedding, with a hall and a band. However, the mother of the bride demanded that her cousins be allowed to play music and sing songs before and during dinner. Nobody coordinated this with the band, so when they showed up and there was what amounted to another 'band' set up and playing in their designated spots, they said "Screw this" and refused to unload their equipment and were threatening to leave. Now mind you, as Best Man, I had my duties. Plan and throw the bachelor party. Maintain ring security up until I give them to the bride/groom during the ceremony. And have a Toast prepared. I had NOTHING to do with any specific plans. Yet, while the mother who caused all this commotion was running around yelling at everyone, I was somehow expected to intervene with the band. She actually came up to me, and yelled "Why the hell aren't you doing anything about this????" I looked at her and said "I haven't signed any contract with these clowns. I don't even know their names, and they don't know me. All I am is a big guy in a suit. What makes you think I have any inclination to get involved in YOUR business??" At that time I bit my tongue because I was about to suggest If I fix the mess she created with the band, she could give the Toast, but I kept my mouth closed instead. Her big excuse for creating this mess? "I PAID FOR THIS!!!" That was shouted over and over again - while the bride was in tears and the groom was ready to strangle her.

My point here for people planning a wedding - you cede control over the event when others are paying for it. Now, if you trust those people - great. However, after seeing this and other messes at weddings I was a part of, my wife and I sat down and decided for our wedding, we would take $1000 from my family, and $1000 from hers. Everything else - and I mean EVERYTHING else - was paid for by THE TWO OF US. We saved our own money (and believe me we weren't making diddly back then) for 18 months. And ALL decisions were cleared by us. We took SUGGESTIONS. And come wedding day, everything was smooth. Was it tough? Sure. But that was an immensely satisfying day and night - for all the right reasons.

Funny, the only detail we forgot was transportation after the reception. With the limo long gone, and no car pre-planted or driver secured - about 3/4 of the way through the reception I realized we didn't have a ride to our wedding night destination. But we found many people willing to step up and chauffeur after the reception.

@censorshipsucks06 said:

Funny, the only detail we forgot was transportation after the reception. With the limo long gone, and no car pre-planted or driver secured - about 3/4 of the way through the reception I realized we didn't have a ride to our wedding night destination. But we found many people willing to step up and chauffeur after the reception.

Did they have McDonald's for you in the back?

Sorry, just a TV ad I've seen that I enjoyed. Made sense too, really.

@Knixon said:

@censorshipsucks06 said:

Funny, the only detail we forgot was transportation after the reception. With the limo long gone, and no car pre-planted or driver secured - about 3/4 of the way through the reception I realized we didn't have a ride to our wedding night destination. But we found many people willing to step up and chauffeur after the reception.

Did they have McDonald's for you in the back?

Sorry, just a TV ad I've seen that I enjoyed. Made sense too, really.

LOl, I can relate to that commercial. I think I had two bites of my food at my wedding.