@censorshipsucks06 said:

FYI - The best way of maintaining control of the wedding is to control the MONEY.

True true. My husband and I paid for ours and we had complete control. Did exactly what we wanted, and it was awesome.

@Gothish520 said:

@censorshipsucks06 said:

One thing about weddings - if you are planning one - and don't want distractions - be cognizant of the date you select. So many times I've seen brides (and grooms) get pissed because people in attendance were ducking out of the reception to check a major sports event at the bar or outside, or in today's world, on cell phones.

Look - I get it. It's your big day. But that doesn't mean the culture stops just for you. I know people that have run into bad luck - like having their local Michigan wedding on the day of Stanley Cup Game 7 between the Red Wings and Penguins. That's bad luck. But you can't expect people who have spent 7 months following the season and watching every game to just not care. Especially for fans that are LIFELONG fans.

But just take a look at a schedule and see if conflicts COULD arise. I went to a Florida wedding where the bride was from Michigan, and the groom was from Florida. Neither were sports fans. They scheduled their wedding so it conflicted with the MICHIGAN/OHIO STATE game (the only time I've missed a half of that game in my life), and the reception at night during the FLORIDA vs FLORIDA STATE game. Now that was just asking for it. The bride was all pissed when guys kept crowding around a TV someone brought.
The worst was a Jewish wedding that was scheduled DURING THE SUPER BOWL. You have to be a special kind of dense to do this and then expect no issues. I mean, why not just schedule it on Christmas Morning or at 1pm on Thanksgiving?? Yes, it's rude to be paying attention to sports during a wedding or a reception. But likewise, if you knowingly scheduled it that way, you reap what you sow. I think it's equally rude to expect your guests to just toss aside cultural activities that are very important to them.

Us? We had a September wedding. We SPECIFICALLY selected a date when U of M was on the bye, and where the only big local game was MSU vs Notre Dame, but that was a 1pm game, and the wedding was at 6PM. With a little planning, we avoided the dreaded "Sports Interruptions".

Thoughts? This usually generates an interesting discussion.

My father and brother are huge sports fans (mostly baseball and football) and one of my sisters is a big Nascar fan. So that definitely lets out the World Series, the Super Bowl, and the Daytona 500, lol. Other big days, like playoff games, would depend on whether their team was a contender or not. My brother is also a Notre Dame football and Duke basketball fan. So basically, I get what you're saying, and honestly, I spent most of my time out on the dancefloor at my wedding and probably would not have noticed if people were watching the tv at the bar.

That being said, even the day of the week makes a difference. We had our wedding on a Sunday, and a few people did leave early because they had to work the next day. Mostly my husband's co-workers, so not a great loss, lol. But it is something to keep in mind. Also, Friday weddings might be tough for those who have to work and then try to make it on time. When I was a bride I definitely had the attitude that these people had plenty of notice and should have planned accordingly (Take Monday off...It's the party of the year, dammit!) But like I said, it wasn't anyone top-tier, to put it indelicately - and truth be told, if we had to do it all over again, we could probably cut the guest list by a third - sometimes you get swept up in the moment and invite people who don't really need to be invited.

After reading this thread all of I sudden I'm worrying about how I'm going to plan my own. My Cousin who is getting married in May, is spending a FORTUNE on hers already and her guest list is like seventy people and growing. Her fiance has a huge Family. My family is also extremely big. I have about 20 cousins who want to come and bring a guest. That's 40 people off the bat. 😵

@CalabrianQueen said:

After reading this thread all of I sudden I'm worrying about how I'm going to plan my own. My Cousin who is getting married in May, is spending a FORTUNE on hers already and her guest list is like seventy people and growing. Her fiance has a huge Family. My family is also extremely big. I have about 20 cousins who want to come and bring a guest. That's 40 people off the bat. 😵

Let me tell you Sister, I had to really keep a firm grip on the guest list to stop it from getting out of control. And like I said, even then there were people there that didn't need to be, lol. First, we cut the families off at first cousins - my husband is half Italian and half Irish - we could've invited 300 guests easy! My goal was to keep it under 100, but we ended up inviting 125, and almost everyone came.

We both invited people from work that really didn't need to be there. Plus, we tried to keep it to just people in serious relationships and not stick "and guest" onto the single folks' invitations - but that didn't stop people from responding with '2' as the number of guests attending, or calling and asking if they could bring their "girlfriend", when I knew damn well they were not a couple . Fun times! Then, my mother-in-law wanted to invite four couples that were her closest friends, and offered to pay for them. She's a great lady, and I didn't feel right making her pay, so we acquiesced.

My best advice to you is for you and your fiance to make a list of the must-haves - the A list, the people who absolutely have to be invited. Then take it from there.

@Gothish520 said:

@CalabrianQueen said:

After reading this thread all of I sudden I'm worrying about how I'm going to plan my own. My Cousin who is getting married in May, is spending a FORTUNE on hers already and her guest list is like seventy people and growing. Her fiance has a huge Family. My family is also extremely big. I have about 20 cousins who want to come and bring a guest. That's 40 people off the bat. 😵

Let me tell you Sister, I had to really keep a firm grip on the guest list to stop it from getting out of control. And like I said, even then there were people there that didn't need to be, lol. First, we cut the families off at first cousins - my husband is half Italian and half Irish - we could've invited 300 guests easy! My goal was to keep it under 100, but we ended up inviting 125, and almost everyone came.

We both invited people from work that really didn't need to be there. Plus, we tried to keep it to just people in serious relationships and not stick "and guest" onto the single folks' invitations - but that didn't stop people from responding with '2' as the number of guests attending, or calling and asking if they could bring their "girlfriend", when I knew damn well they were not a couple . Fun times! Then, my mother-in-law wanted to invite four couples that were her closest friends, and offered to pay for them. She's a great lady, and I didn't feel right making her pay, so we acquiesced.

My best advice to you is for you and your fiance to make a list of the must-haves - the A list, the people who absolutely have to be invited. Then take it from there.

He included all his work buddies and college friends as "Must haves" LOL. The only MUST haves I have are direct family, most of my cousins and Amanda,my best friend since age 13.

Anyway it isn't until May 2019 so I'm not stressing over it.

@CalabrianQueen said:

@Gothish520 said:

@CalabrianQueen said:

After reading this thread all of I sudden I'm worrying about how I'm going to plan my own. My Cousin who is getting married in May, is spending a FORTUNE on hers already and her guest list is like seventy people and growing. Her fiance has a huge Family. My family is also extremely big. I have about 20 cousins who want to come and bring a guest. That's 40 people off the bat. 😵

Let me tell you Sister, I had to really keep a firm grip on the guest list to stop it from getting out of control. And like I said, even then there were people there that didn't need to be, lol. First, we cut the families off at first cousins - my husband is half Italian and half Irish - we could've invited 300 guests easy! My goal was to keep it under 100, but we ended up inviting 125, and almost everyone came.

We both invited people from work that really didn't need to be there. Plus, we tried to keep it to just people in serious relationships and not stick "and guest" onto the single folks' invitations - but that didn't stop people from responding with '2' as the number of guests attending, or calling and asking if they could bring their "girlfriend", when I knew damn well they were not a couple . Fun times! Then, my mother-in-law wanted to invite four couples that were her closest friends, and offered to pay for them. She's a great lady, and I didn't feel right making her pay, so we acquiesced.

My best advice to you is for you and your fiance to make a list of the must-haves - the A list, the people who absolutely have to be invited. Then take it from there.

He included all his work buddies and college friends as "Must haves" LOL. The only MUST haves I have are direct family, most of my cousins and Amanda,my best friend since age 13.

Anyway it isn't until May 2019 so I'm not stressing over it.

Don't stress it,Erica. I got married and everything about that day went Wrong. I married my wife in the middle of pouring rain outside. People Who were supposed to show up didn't come. There were issues with everything from florists to photographers. She read her vows with her shoes off and mud everywhere. And part of what made me so in love with her is that she didn't care. To her, just being with me was enough, through it all she smiled the entire time.

If I could redo that day I wouldn't change a thing.

Foxy, please don't make me cry this early on a Saturday morning.

@CalabrianQueen said:

Foxy, please don't make me cry this early on a Saturday morning.

Don't stress it,Erica.

I agree with Fox, it's definitely not worth getting stressed - it won't help, and no matter what happens, it will be a great day!

@CalabrianQueen said:

@znexyish said:

So far there have been two weddings on the show, Howard and Bernie's rooftop/satellite wedding (my favorite), and Leonard and Penny's standard outdoor canopy wedding. I believe that what Sheldon would really like is a Star Trek wedding with vows in Klingon, Stephan Hawking officiating and a robot ring bearer, while Amy would prefer the same kind L and P had. I and I think many fans of the show would like to see would be a more elaborate wedding or even two, one romantic and another geeky. This brought to mind the whole wild world of theme weddings, Star Trek Weddings, Star Wars Weddings, Harry Potter Weddings, Anne of Green Gables weddings, etc...

Have you ever attended one of these ? Do you like the idea ?

And for Calabrian Queen might you be planning an Anime/Taylor Swift combo theme wedding ?

I have never been to one myself.

I've been to TWO themed weddings. The first was a college friend who had an English regency era themed wedding. Yeah, she made us wear the exact dresses you're thinking of. The other was my cousin who had a beach wedding a few years ago. I don't know if that counts as a theme, but it wasn't traditional, more like a beach party with mostly friends .

I'm not planning on any themes but that's 2019 , I have time to think about it.

I presume you are getting married then - congrats! Also if it's 2 years away you really don't have time - all wedding stuff tends to get booked up 18 months in advance.

@literaryladyoflothlorien said:

@CalabrianQueen said:

@znexyish said:

So far there have been two weddings on the show, Howard and Bernie's rooftop/satellite wedding (my favorite), and Leonard and Penny's standard outdoor canopy wedding. I believe that what Sheldon would really like is a Star Trek wedding with vows in Klingon, Stephan Hawking officiating and a robot ring bearer, while Amy would prefer the same kind L and P had. I and I think many fans of the show would like to see would be a more elaborate wedding or even two, one romantic and another geeky. This brought to mind the whole wild world of theme weddings, Star Trek Weddings, Star Wars Weddings, Harry Potter Weddings, Anne of Green Gables weddings, etc...

Have you ever attended one of these ? Do you like the idea ?

And for Calabrian Queen might you be planning an Anime/Taylor Swift combo theme wedding ?

I have never been to one myself.

I've been to TWO themed weddings. The first was a college friend who had an English regency era themed wedding. Yeah, she made us wear the exact dresses you're thinking of. The other was my cousin who had a beach wedding a few years ago. I don't know if that counts as a theme, but it wasn't traditional, more like a beach party with mostly friends .

I'm not planning on any themes but that's 2019 , I have time to think about it.

I presume you are getting married then - congrats! Also if it's 2 years away you really don't have time - all wedding stuff tends to get booked up 18 months in advance.

SOOOOOO glad to see you back on the board Lady!!

@literaryladyoflothlorien said:

@CalabrianQueen said:

@znexyish said:

So far there have been two weddings on the show, Howard and Bernie's rooftop/satellite wedding (my favorite), and Leonard and Penny's standard outdoor canopy wedding. I believe that what Sheldon would really like is a Star Trek wedding with vows in Klingon, Stephan Hawking officiating and a robot ring bearer, while Amy would prefer the same kind L and P had. I and I think many fans of the show would like to see would be a more elaborate wedding or even two, one romantic and another geeky. This brought to mind the whole wild world of theme weddings, Star Trek Weddings, Star Wars Weddings, Harry Potter Weddings, Anne of Green Gables weddings, etc...

Have you ever attended one of these ? Do you like the idea ?

And for Calabrian Queen might you be planning an Anime/Taylor Swift combo theme wedding ?

I have never been to one myself.

I've been to TWO themed weddings. The first was a college friend who had an English regency era themed wedding. Yeah, she made us wear the exact dresses you're thinking of. The other was my cousin who had a beach wedding a few years ago. I don't know if that counts as a theme, but it wasn't traditional, more like a beach party with mostly friends .

I'm not planning on any themes but that's 2019 , I have time to think about it.

I presume you are getting married then - congrats! Also if it's 2 years away you really don't have time - all wedding stuff tends to get booked up 18 months in advance.

1st of all WELCOME BACK LADY LOTHLORIAN

2ND 😵😵😵😵😵😵😵😵😵😵😵😵😵

@literaryladyoflothlorien said:

@CalabrianQueen said:

@znexyish said:

So far there have been two weddings on the show, Howard and Bernie's rooftop/satellite wedding (my favorite), and Leonard and Penny's standard outdoor canopy wedding. I believe that what Sheldon would really like is a Star Trek wedding with vows in Klingon, Stephan Hawking officiating and a robot ring bearer, while Amy would prefer the same kind L and P had. I and I think many fans of the show would like to see would be a more elaborate wedding or even two, one romantic and another geeky. This brought to mind the whole wild world of theme weddings, Star Trek Weddings, Star Wars Weddings, Harry Potter Weddings, Anne of Green Gables weddings, etc...

Have you ever attended one of these ? Do you like the idea ?

And for Calabrian Queen might you be planning an Anime/Taylor Swift combo theme wedding ?

I have never been to one myself.

I've been to TWO themed weddings. The first was a college friend who had an English regency era themed wedding. Yeah, she made us wear the exact dresses you're thinking of. The other was my cousin who had a beach wedding a few years ago. I don't know if that counts as a theme, but it wasn't traditional, more like a beach party with mostly friends .

I'm not planning on any themes but that's 2019 , I have time to think about it.

I presume you are getting married then - congrats! Also if it's 2 years away you really don't have time - all wedding stuff tends to get booked up 18 months in advance.

We spent all this time calming her down, now you've put her back into dire straits!

Neways you're right about the booking , but I Think if you're planning something small the booking shouldn't be such an issue, especially if it's not in a large, commonly booked venue.