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Wedding Vows —Preparing Your Own vs. Traditional
posted by FormerlyKnownAsSTAFFMOD on June 6, 2018 at 1:24 PM
When it comes to preparing your own vs. traditional vows, on which side of the fence do you fall--and--why?
Prepared vows and Team Big Bang: if memory serves it was...
Sheldon, no—Amy, yes.
Howard, yes—Bernie, yes.
Leonard, yes (twice)—Penny, no once—yes once.
(Re: whether Raj will prepare his own vows, I think we can safely go ahead and give a big 
to YES! )
Anyway...
I say: Unless hell is about to freeze over—skip preparing your own and stick with traditional. Nothing is worse than listening to a bunch of super sappy platitudes trying to pass for sincere and deep—except, of course, poorly written super sappy platitudes….
Traditional vows (tweaked a little, if necessary) is the way to go. Anything else is “added spectacle”. No one is interested in hearing about all the things you plan to do for each other, or not do to each other until-death-do-you-part.
What say you?
Reply by CalabrianQueen
on June 6, 2018 at 1:34 PM
We decided to write our vows for our wedding not to make it a spectacle but because I want what I say to be from the heart.
Not to knock the pre-written templates but Id prefer not to use them; they don't sound organic to me.
Reply by Knixon
on June 6, 2018 at 6:59 PM
Time for Serial again!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-L3v8-poBa4
There's another at the end of the movie, I couldn't find a video but it goes like this:
Reply by FormerlyKnownAs
on June 6, 2018 at 9:32 PM
Love the clip...
In the "real world" it's not something the Bride or Groom would ever say; but if it were, I'd be willing to bet that somewhere among the honored guests would be someone whispering right on!
As for Rev. Spike: Can't help but picture George Carlin's character, 'Cardinal Glick' from the Ben Affleck/Matt Damon movie "Dogma".
Reply by Knixon
on June 7, 2018 at 1:52 AM
Everyone should see that movie at least once. Including for Skull, among others.
Reply by censorshipsucks06
on June 18, 2018 at 3:27 PM
We used traditional vows. Then again, that was 25 years ago, and we were the first 'couple' in both our groups of friends to get married.
But we're kind of traditional any way. However, the term "obey" we deleted.
Our ceremony was less than a half hour long. We wanted to get to the reception and start the party!
Reply by CalabrianQueen
on June 19, 2018 at 11:45 AM
For ours we decided the pleasantries are going to be about 15 minutes. Then it's a party from there on out.
Reply by CaptainLouAlbino
on June 19, 2018 at 4:50 PM
An interesting topic. Why does it have to be either or, why not a mix? That said, I've seen some BAD stuff go down when a couple wrote/spoke their own vows.
No, worse than that.
Worse than that.
Worse.
OK, not THAT bad.
"Stories, we want stories!" I hear no one crying.
How about the groom fainting, and falling off the ten foot stage they were on, ending up with a fractured skull, compound fracture of the femur a punctured lung and five broken ribs.
Or the bride losing it, grabbing a bouquet from a maid of honor and smashing it into the grooms face and storm sashaying off.
Reply by Knixon
on June 19, 2018 at 5:56 PM
Those happened because of the vows?
Reply by FormerlyKnownAs
on June 19, 2018 at 6:43 PM
At the time, was he saying his own vows or listening to hers? It would be truly awful if something she said caused such a panic attack that it restricted blood flow to his brain.
As for “a mix” of traditional and personal vow, I’m not against "fine-tuning" traditional vows to fit personal situations. In fact, it's probably done all the time now; starting with removing "obey" and putting in whatever. It’s folks reading (or reciting) their laundry-list of forevers-and-evers that makes me
. Trust me nobody at one of these things is interested in hearing anything about who will take out the garbage, or who will respect whose choice of music in the car.
Reply by CaptainLouAlbino
on June 21, 2018 at 1:52 PM
With the groom fainting, it was a combination of the weather, hot and very, very humid and the groom being extremely nervous, as in having it coming out both ends wedding morning. He was saying his vows.
With the bride honestly I never found out, I was there as the replacement of a replacement for someone's Plus 1 and barely knew bride or groom.
Reply by FormerlyKnownAs
on June 21, 2018 at 2:32 PM
Too bad you can't un-see all that; but at least they are outside your inner circle, and you are not likely to bump into them at every-other function you attend.
Reply by FormerlyKnownAs
on July 1, 2018 at 10:13 AM
Reply by CaptainLouAlbino
on July 2, 2018 at 2:27 PM
Everybody always thinks that, some hideously embarrassing event occurs and you say to yourself, "Well at least I'll never see any of these people again."
And then you end up on a plane going from LA to Australia and they're in your row of seats. Know how long a flight from LA to Aussie is? Doesn't matter. It's the 2nd or 3rd most uncomfortable period of time I've ever had to spend, #1 being 36 hours in a jail.
Reply by FormerlyKnownAs
on July 2, 2018 at 2:48 PM
Instead of: "Nothing is certain but death and taxes."
The saying should be: Nothing is certain but death and taxes and Murphy's Law.